Shutting Down the Blog

Hey Dudes & Dudettes--
My time in the blogosphere was brief, but it has come to an end. So I'm shutting down the blog until further notice. It might be lovely to start it again, although perhaps not on Blogger since a few members of my audience complained of inability to post anonymously.
I've picked up a couple obligations in the real world that are absorbing my time, not the least of which is my new Little Sister through the Big Sister Association, so I'm moving my focus there. Thank you for your contributions!

Music Videos & Sexuality

Hi Audience,
Sorry the update didn't go up yesterday as planned. Technical difficulties; Blogger ate my post instead of posting my post.

I didn't get any questions last week. :-(
So I thought of a game for us to play! :-)

Pick a music video released in 2009-2011, preferably one talking about love/sex as a theme. Any genre, so long as the song was in the Top 40 when it was released. (So pop, popular rap, popular country, etc are all valid categories.) Then, the next person will comment on what they see in the video. You might see gendered expectations. Or maybe sexuality expressed as kink? Or perhaps as vanilla romance? Whatever you see, tell us!

So I'll start with a personal favorite:
"Just Dance" by Lady Gaga


The next person comments on my video, and posts a video, creating a chain effect.
Have fun!

Technical Difficulties

Sorry folks,
Post on Thursday was written up and posted ... I've only just now noticed it has mysteriously disappeared. Weird. It'll be up by midnight tonight since I have to re-type it now.
-Diana

Watching of Porn

Porn. We all watch it. Most of us have ... strong feelings about it. How do women feel about porn? How do men feel porn? Can we generalize effectively? An article from Psychology Today shows some surprising reactions of men and women.

From Psychology Today:

And after all, women don't really like porn! Do they? In fact, studies by Meredith Chivers show that women react as strongly to porn as men do. In some cases, it seems that women actually react more strongly to porn than do men, as women respond with physiological arousal to visual depictions of almost any sexual activity, whereas men seem to be much more rigid and limited in what they respond to. But, whereas men respond with both physical and psychological arousal, women more frequently show physical arousal, at the same time they deny being turned on. So, women react to porn, they may just be unwilling or unable to acknowledge it - after all, they are taught from childhood that "good girls don't do that!"

Okay you say, alright, so maybe women react to porn, but they don't like the hardcore stuff. They want the nice stuff, romance, flowers and chocolate, then sex. They're not like men, who just want the money shot. Actually, in contrast to the belief that men watching pornography is just about the “gynecological shot,” and that all men care about is genitalia, recent research at the Atlanta Center for Behavioral Neuroscience has shown that when men watch pornography, the thing they attend to most, is a woman’s face. In fact, compared to women watching pornography, men looked at the faces of porn actors sooner and more, than women did!

So, women get turned on by pornography, but find it hard to admit. And men actually care about women's faces in pornos. How do you feel about watching pornography? If your partner watches pornography, is it violation of monogamy? Is is different if a women watches porn versus a man? Let me know what you think!

http://www.guardian.co.uk/culture/2011/apr/07/women-addicted-internet-pornography
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/women-who-stray/201010/women-watching-porn-not-in-my-town